October 1, 2018
I bet 70% of you babes reading this right now dread waking up in the morning for work. I don’t know about you, but I’ve always wondered why people allow themselves to be miserable in jobs that they aren’t passionate about. You have ONE life… why spend it being miserable over jobs that you aren’t passionate about? Think about this; the average american spends 90,000 hours working over their lifetime. That’s not even mentioning the 87% of Americans who have zero passion for their careers.
Let’s be honest, most of you are probably working jobs that you don’t necessarily love, and that’s okay! I’ve been where you are… and you probably feel burnt out, stressed, and fed up with the nine to five routine. You probably have a passion that you are itching to dive into… however, you’re having trouble ditching the financial stability of your current job. I get it, money is great, but above all, HAPPINESS and PASSION are the real goal here.
I’m going to share 5 things that helped me ditch my sh*tty waitressing job to pursue the dream of being a small business owner FULL TIME. Oh and by the way, did I mention that I did this at the age of 18? I’m sorry babe, but there are no excuses. It’s time to get off that booty and get to work TODAY! Let’s turn that dream into a reality.
Let’s get this straight; failing is how you learn, failing is how you grow, and failing is how you succeed. I worked at a hibachi restaurant for 3 years. November 2016 of my senior year, I passed my Maryland state boards exam for cosmetology, therefore making me a licensed cosmetologist. Now I have my license, I’m ready to start making money doing my dream job right? I wish that was the case. I continued to work as a waitress until June of 2017. Prior to leaving my waitressing job, I started part time hairstyling in a salon just to get my toes wet.
I found that I really liked hair coloring as well as styling brides for their wedding. I wanted so badly to just dive into the salon life but I was scared because waitressing was my only source of income. Leaving my waitressing job meant that I would be leaving my security blanket of a steady income. I would be starting over without a clientele, and no guaranteed money.
I got to a point where I was burnt out, I wasn’t as happy as I thought I should’ve been, and I realized that splitting my energy between waitressing and doing what I love was actually just as bad as not doing it at all. So TAKE THAT CHANCE! Who cares if you fail, failing must happen in order to be successful. In the end, you won’t regret taking the risk to pursue your dreams.
I can’t tell you how many times I worried about what others would think of me. I worried that my family would look down on me for not going to college? Being looked at as a “wanna be” on social media was terrifying, and I was worried that I wasn’t good enough at doing hair to be as successful as I wanted to be. Above all, I worried about being judged. All of these things swarmed my mind, holding me back from taking that first step and leaving my security blanket.
This is a mind game, you have to teach yourself to be confident in yourself and your work. Fake it till’ you make it. Believe you can and you will. No one else’s opinion matters, and if they have something negative to say then you don’t need them anyway. Your vibe will attract your tribe. Your personality and atmosphere will attract your ideal clientele and the people who WILL support you instead of judging you.
This is a tricky one, and will probably take you longer to figure out. I wouldn’t have gotten to where I am today if I didn’t make some changes in who I was surrounding myself with. Ask yourself this, are the people you surround yourself with pushing you to do better or are they holding you back?
I have made some very tough decisions that turned out to be some of the reasons why I am where I am today. You have to protect yourself and your energy in order to be successful. I’ve cut out unhealthy relationships, left energy draining jobs, turned down job opportunities to preserve my energy, and made some tough decisions to benefit myself and my future. Although these decisions were sometimes difficult, without them I would not be where I am today in my career.
One thing that I’ve done over the past few months is stepped out of my comfort zone. Whenever you start to feel like you’re never going to be able to pick yourself up out of whatever you’re going through, you need to do something that scares the living shit out of you. You need to push yourself to take more risks.
Now, when I left my waitressing job to pursue my career as a hairstylist/entrepreneur/bridal stylist/badass, I wouldn’t really say that I actually did anything to push myself. This is something I’ve recently learned. Within the past few months I went skydiving (this was the big one), cliff jumping multiple times, and traveled more than ever. By doing something that scares the hell out of you, you realize that you have more confidence than you think. Sometimes all you need is a little kick in the ass to remind you that you are one badass MOFO. You realize that life is to short to be miserable doing a job that you hate.
Girl, stop talking so bad about yourself. You can do whatever the hell you want with your career. Who cares if you don’t succeed the first time? Or the second? Or the third? At least you’re trying and not just sitting on your ass working miserable, draining jobs. You have to speak kind words to yourself.
Try encouraging affirmations. Write down 3 things you love about yourself, and 2 encouraging sayings. Post-it the hell out of them all over places you will see them. Read them every morning when you wake up, and every night when you go to sleep. Also, when you read them, read them with confidence and believe the words you’re reading even if you think it’s ridiculous. Have confidence that you will succeed, and you will.